Welcome to The Ex Narc Magnet
Start here…
I’ve had an influx of new subscribers in the last couple of months, so I’m sharing this introduction to help new readers understand what this space is really about—because I know the mix of faith, trauma, spiritual warfare, and hard truths can feel a bit overwhelming at first.
Consider this your friendly roadmap to what I write, why I write it, and why it might just be the honest, unfiltered voice you’ve been looking for.
(Also, I need something a little more permanent to pin…)
Who Am I? (And other existential queries…)
Hi, I’m Elaine Christine — aka The Ex Narc Magnet.
(That’s narcissist, not narcotics, just to be clear — though frankly, both are addictive and soul-destroying, so I understand the confusion.)
I’m 52 and wide awake. (You’ll soon understand why that matters).
Mother of three — two estranged, one who helped me recover the memories that destroyed our family.
Dog mum to Audrey, my four-year-old Shih Tzu who chose me by placing her six-week-old paw on my knee.
Pure love at first sight.
She’s been my therapist, bodyguard, and cuddle companion ever since.
I’m also a grandmother to two beautiful littles — a fourteen-year-old granddaughter, a two-year-old grandson, and ‘baby bean’ due on my birthday in 2026.
They are reason I know joy again.
God is good.
Before healing?
I was a metalhead rock chick, covered in over 60 tattoos, pierced in all the usual and a few unusual places.
A former witch, energy healer, psychic medium, and manifestation coach/teacher.
I had one foot in the New Age and the other in self-destruction, all dressed up as empowerment.
And, full disclosure, I’m neurospicy — a self-diagnosed AuDHD woman, with all the trimmings, navigating this world with a hypersensitive soul and a brain like a browser with 43 tabs open (with music playing from all of them).
👩💻 And What I Do Now
These days, I’m a faith-based writer, speaker, and trauma recovery mentor, working at the intersection of narcissistic abuse, Echoism, trauma healing and spiritual warfare.
I’m currently rewriting my first book (because healing brings clarity, a renewed sense of humour, and both demand edits), and I’ve got eight more in the works — including Unbound: Healing Trauma Bonds and Finding Your Identity in Christ, a workbook to walk women step-by-step from confusion to freedom, with Scripture and lived wisdom as our guide.
Everything I do now is grounded in faith, soaked in real-life experience, and driven by the belief that truth heals, Jesus saves, and silence is no longer an option.
I write for every woman who’s ever been gaslit, ghosted, guilted, or groomed — and still had to get up and make tea like nothing happened.
For the scapegoats.
The daughters who were never protected.
The women (and men?) who’ve had enough.
This isn’t a space for fluff, bypassing, or fake positivity.
This is where we wrestle with hard truths, laugh at dark ones, and keep walking anyway — towards light, peace, and freedom.
“Because the devil doesn’t waste time on the unthreatening.
And you, dear reader, are a threat.”
Why The Ex Narc Magnet?
For most of my life, I was a magnet for narcissistic people.
The covert ones.
The charming ones.
The spiritual ones.
The ones who swore they’d never hurt me while quietly studying the blueprint of how to do it best.
If there was a manipulator in the room, I could spot them — by walking straight into their arms.
I married three, had a brief re-enactment with another, and a revolving door of so-called friends, caring colleagues and compassionate bosses.
So I didn’t just attract them, I was attracted to them.
I loved them.
Married them.
Worked with them. Defended them.
And, like so many women who were raised to be agreeable and forgiving at any cost, I self-erased.
Eventually, I broke the magnetism.
Not because I became harder, but because I became clearer — about who I am, who God is, and what spiritual war we’re really in.
That’s why I write.
✍️ What I Write About
This space is for anyone who’s woken up mid-life, looked around at the debris of manipulation, betrayal, and chronic over-giving, and thought:
“What in fresh hell was that?”
Here, you’ll find stories, reflections, and truth bombs about:
Narcissistic abuse — especially the covert kind that looks like love until it burns your soul down
Echoism — the counterpart to narcissism, where you shrink yourself for peace and call it humility
Faith-based recovery — identity in Christ, deliverance from demonic oppression, and healing that starts at the spiritual root
Real stories — raw, unfiltered accounts of betrayal, awakening, and clawing your way back to yourself
Cultural and spiritual commentary — on gender, systems, ideology, control — and how it all connects to spiritual warfare
I don’t write fluff.
I write what I needed to read at my lowest: the kind of truth that makes your stomach drop — but then sets you free.
🙏 Why I Write It
Because no one came to save me — and I almost didn’t make it. More than once.
Because I mistook trauma bonding for love, spiritual warfare for bad luck, and demonic influence for a personality disorder.
Because I know I’m not the only one.
Because so many are still trapped in cycles of abuse, masked as romance or religion or family loyalty — and someone needs to name it.
Because the devil doesn’t waste time on the irrelevant.
If you’ve been targeted this much, it’s probably because your life is a threat to darkness.
And because silence keeps us sick.
So I chose to start healing loudly, so others don’t have to suffer quietly. (That has a nice ring to it, huh?)
🐍 Let’s Talk About the Elephant in the Room
(Or the snake in the system)
Here’s the part where people either lean in… or slowly back away.
Yes, I talk about spiritual warfare.
Not as metaphor, but as reality.
The narcissists I’ve encountered?
Not just emotionally broken — they were demonically influenced.
Some were outright possessed.
And when you start seeing their playbook, you realise it’s identical to the enemy’s mission: steal, kill, destroy.
I talk about "conspiracy truths" too — because once your eyes open, you see that narcissistic abuse isn’t just personal.
It’s cultural.
Political.
Spiritual.
Global.
We are living in a world run by narcissists, sociopaths, and power-hungry puppets who are following instructions from something far darker than greed.
The systems we once trusted — governments, media, even aspects of the Church — have been hijacked.
The agenda?
Confuse, divide, and control.
Once you start seeing the patterns, you can’t unsee them.
But that’s not the end — it’s the beginning of freedom.
Still with me?
Good.
You’re probably one of the ones God is waking up.
What You’ll Find in This Space
Deep dives into narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding, and the long (but holy) road back to yourself
Echoism unpacked — why you became the overgiver, and how to stop
Faith-based tools for healing — Scripture, spiritual discernment, and deliverance
Real-life stories — gritty, tender, and sometimes a little funny (because if we don’t laugh, we cry... or key their car)
Uncomfortable truths — about culture, power, and spiritual agendas, presented with clarity, not hysteria
Encouragement for the weary, validation for the unheard, and loving confrontation for the complacent
If you’re here to avoid truth, you’re going to be uncomfortable.
If you’re here to find it?
You’ll feel like you’ve come home.
💔 One More Thing — The Pain We Don’t Talk About
Before I go, there’s one wound that many of us carry in silence: estrangement.
Children taken from their mothers — not always by force, but by manipulation.
By narcissistic fathers who charm the courts, or gaslight our children, while dismantling their families behind closed doors.
By a world that says “move on” instead of “this is evil.”
Not all of our stories are the same, and too many mothers get an unfair rap for this situation — but the heartbreak is real.
It’s the grief that doesn’t get flowers.
The birthdays spent in prayer.
The ache of being alive and still not allowed to mother.
It’s not just a personal tragedy.
It’s a strategy of the enemy — to sever the bond between mother and child, and wound generations in the process.
But the story isn’t over yet.
God is a restorer.
What the enemy meant for harm… well, you already know how that ends.
Healing loudly so others don’t have to suffer quietly…
Elaine Christine xx